10-Year Rewind // Before the Blog

>> Tuesday, November 14, 2017

You know how everyone always asks what’s in your 5-year or 10-year plans? Do you ever know how to answer that question? I definitely felt like I was super goal-oriented and ambitious 10 years ago. I’d daydream about what direction my career would take, where my personal life would meander, and when kids might enter the equation. I thought it’d be fun instead of projecting what my next 10 years might look like . . . to take a step back and examine myself 10 years ago. When I was 24.

Stephen and I were married a couple months after I turned 24 (he was 23! We were BABIES!).


We lived together in a 2-bedroom apartment on the outskirts of Ithaca, NY, at the time. Scully (R.I.P.) lived with us, and I took a lot of photos of her back then. It was in this apartment that I really started cooking and baking up a storm. I started my first blog (Method) here, and I’m pretty sure this photo is from some pumpkin muffins I posted.


I used to love how the sunlight would stream into our kitchen from the sliding doors leading out to the tiny balcony. I think we MAY have been able to see a sliver of Cayuga lake from this spot. Oh, by this point, I had lived in a whopping 10 different houses/apartments in my life.

Scully had already lived in five, so that shows you exactly how much I had moved in the three years since college graduation (I adopted Scully a few weeks after graduating in 2005).



Stephen and I were big into running shorter distance races back then. I think we mostly did 10Ks, but we’d do long runs like up to 8 miles. Our apartment was in a hilly area with mostly country highways, so I didn’t like going much farther than that. It was a good area for biking, though, which is why you see those bikes on our balcony. We’d go for hours-long rides and look at the lake.

We especially liked trekking to a nearby park that had a lighthouse.


We also did a lot of kayaking. I don’t remember what it’s like to have so much free time!


So, when I was 24, I was working at a software company in the marketing department. I absolutely loved the people I worked with. In fact, I’m still very close friends with a few of them.

LOL. Sorry, guys. I love this photo.



Professionally, though, I was sort of a mess. I was in over my head trying to go from a communications person to a marketing manager. I had no idea what I was doing half the time. I was traveling often for work (which really stressed me out).

Here’s a photo from a campus visit where I helped film our products in action.


Anyway, it got to be too much. Around 10 years ago I did make the decision to leave that job and pursue a different path. I first left and started working as a professional writing tutor at a community college. I won’t go into my career progression (I covered it in a video, if you’re interested). But that was a big transition for me in 2007/8.

What else? I was getting really into photography. I bought my first DSLR and would take long walks just to find photo opportunities. I learned a lot through trial and error.


I was also in community orchestra.


We had moved to downtown Ithaca at some point during that year because we were unhappy in the country. But that ended up not working out either because Stephen was commuting to his first teaching job, and it was killer for him. So, one of the biggest changes that year was the big move from Ithaca about an hour away. It was still close, but we knew nobody, so intimidating and somewhat a mixed bag of emotions.

Also: Moving multiple times in a year SUCKS.


We bought our first house, so you can see that this meant I had moved from house/apartment 10 earlier to 11 and then 12. Phew. But it was cool to dig in and do some DIY home stuff.

Like ripping up #allthecarpet


Wow does style change. This was a mood board I had made for the living room plan at the new house.

Holy orange and blue!


I was super into mid-century style.


And this was our bedroom. I was so proud of it back then!


And then some short while after we moved in, we adopted Rivey.


And then at some point, I started working at the university library. This was my usual style there. I always wore scarves, too. For some reason, I have this photo titled “zero-dollar outfit” -- so I was into frugal fashion even 10 years ago!


I also started (never)homemaker around the same time in my small, carpeted kitchen. A few of you have been following me since then. Wow. Thank you. Can you believe this is 10 years ago?!?!?!


What a blast from the past. Thanks for reading if you got this far. I am hoping to put up my gift ideas for kids post soon!

What were you doing 10 years ago?

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Winter Goals + Bucket List

>> Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Wow. After I’ve written up everything on my various lists -- it seems like a lot. But, at the same time, we have a lot of the cold weather season ahead of us. It’s easy to curl up under a blanket and just feel despair when it’s dark and dreary. My idea behind coming up with this list is to bring some life and light into the coming months. If we’re feeling stuck as a family, I hope to consult it for inspiration. And maybe it will help spark your own bucket list of sorts!


Here are some general winter activities we want to do:

  • (re-)Institute a Friday family movie night
  • Take a hike in the snow with or without snowshoes
  • Go ice skating
  • Go sledding
  • Decorate inside for the holidays
  • Decorate outdoors for the holidays
  • Go to brunch at the diner down the street
  • Teach Ada the “true” meaning of Christmas
  • Try no-screen time on Sundays
  • Teach Ada to make pancakes/waffles
  • Make colorful window stars 
  • Make s’mores in the fireplace
  • Make pizza in the fireplace
  • Have an outdoor bonfire in the snow
  • Make ice cream from freshly fallen snow
  • Set family goals for 2018
  • Go to a live hockey game downtown
  • Go to the sensory play space
  • Go to the children’s museum
  • Go to the science center
  • Go to the playground even if it’s cold
  • Have indoor fun/climbing/etc. at the mall in SYR
  • Go to open swim at the YMCA
  • Wear matching pajamas (because YES)
  • Look at the stars using Ada’s new telescope 
  • Build a fort
  • Have a sleepover
  • Go XC skiing in the park nearby
  • Mull cider and wine
  • Take the whole family to the movies
  • Brew a batch of beer with our friends
  • Enjoy a stay-cation
  • Go out to dinner as a family at a local restaurant
  • Hire a babysitter (for the first time) to go on a date!
  • Play in the snow
  • Take a day trip to visit friends we don’t see often enough
  • Take an overnight to visit family we don’t see often enough
  • Have a board game night
  • Learn 5 new recipes
  • Weed through stuff each week/get rid of 1 box/week
  • Write + illustrate a family Christmas book
  • Use the slow cooker once a week/teach Ada how to make chili
  • Bake sourdough bread + bagels
  • Visit the library more often as a family
  • Have a fondue party


And this year we want to actually use our advent calendar + fill it with activities -- one to do each day leading up to Christmas.

I’m thinking:

  • Visit Wellsboro for Dickens of a Christmas
  • Donate to the local food pantry
  • Craft DIY candles out of beeswax
  • Make a gingerbread farm (I saw one at Tractor Supply)
  • Visit Santa 
  • Go to the local museum for their huge tree + train display
  • Take creative holiday photos 
  • Buy toys for a family in need
  • Memorize a few carols 
  • Discover a new local holiday festival
  • Have a PJ day + Christmas movie marathon
  • Donate gently used toys and clothes
  • Decorate Ada’s doll house
  • Drink homemade hot cocoa with candy canes
  • Make a popcorn garland for the tree
  • Tour neighborhood Christmas lights
  • Shop local for gifts
  • Dry orange slices to hang on tree
  • Make gifts for teachers/aides/bus driver/etc.
  • Start a new tradition -- T.B.D.
  • Bake Christmas cookies all day
  • Make wrapping paper
  • Go to a live holiday concert or show
  • Write Christmas cards for family and friends
  • Make ornaments for the tree, like these beeswax ornaments

Personal bucket list/to-do list:

  • Knit hats for the girls
  • Knit a scarf for me
  • Read 3 books before the first day of spring
  • Have a special self-care hour every week/take a bath 
  • Take a cooking class
  • Take a yoga class
  • Start doing Barre3 again (at home)
  • Run a 5K
  • Run a 10K
  • Take Ada on a mommy + daughter date every other week
  • (FINALLY) make photo albums of the kids/family
  • Get a pedicure
  • Play holiday/folk tunes on my violin/piano
  • Speed-clean the house 3x/week for 1hr/session
  • Start a small get-together with girl friends (trivia night, coffee, etc.)
  • Visit my friend and her new baby (due in December)
  • Finish painting the living room, bedroom, and Eloise’s room
  • Tidy up garage to make a “mudroom” space for coats, hats, etc.
  • Organize the play room/basement to better suit our needs

I’ll be back soon with some holiday gift ideas for kids!

What’s on your winter bucket list this year?

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Catching Up

>> Monday, November 6, 2017

What’s happening, friends? I realize it’s been a while since I updated you guys on what’s going on in our lives. So, today’s post will be pretty informal and a way of catching up.  I’m hoping to get back into a more regular blogging rhythm again (2-3 times a week) now that cross country season is nearly over. Anyway, here are some questions I’ve received over the last month and some other general updates.

Life’s been a blur (much like this photo), but things are good.


// Finances


By far, the most requested info revolves around our budget and paying off debt plan. I wish I had better progress to report. Unfortunately, between a new water heater and 4-digit furnace repair, we haven’t had a lot of room to move around funds and aggressively go after our bills. We are keeping up with all our normal payments and will contribute more when we can.

It does feel good to have steady paychecks coming in again. Stephen decided to get his salary distributed over the course of the whole year this year versus the 10-months we had done previously. This will hopefully help as we budget so the summer doesn’t shock us so much.

I am still chugging away with freelance work, but I haven’t returned to pre-Eloise levels. I write between 8-10 articles a month right now. I’m hoping to get back to doing 12. When Ada was in preschool and I was home alone a few hours a day, I was doing more like 24 a month and blogging. The main issue is time. I’ve always relied on early mornings and naps to work -- but with two kids, that time isn’t often there like it used to be.

I think WAHM stuff is material for another post!


// Eloise


Our littlest member of the family is nearly 17 months old! Crazy. She runs all over the house, climbs everything in her path, and is putting short sentences together. Her favorite is “I did this”. She likes Curious George and Daniel Tiger, but doesn’t sit still to watch TV more than two minutes, much to my dismay (Ada was a little zombie).

In the last month, we’ve started regularly going to several toddler activities, including a weekly toddler rock concert, library group, discovery center (I have some photos/videos on my Instagram stories today), and I’d like to start going to a mommy + me gymnastics class when she turns 18 months old.

Our biggest struggle has continued to be food. I plan to write more about this. But to other mamas out there -- it’s not your fault if your kids don’t eat. Ada was a relatively good eater. I’ve taken the same approach of variety and such with Eloise, and she simply doesn’t eat. I’m going to be checking with her doctor about getting her levels checked again for iron deficiency (they were fine at the 1-year appointment, but it’s worth a look). She’s still a petite little thing, but she is fine with all her milestones and seems healthy and happy otherwise.


// Ada


Sweet Ada will turn six next week. Please make it stop. I am continually grateful that we were able to delay kindergarden through our district and start her this year. Last year’s early K was such an amazing opportunity for her to be in school at a slower pace. She’s doing extremely well with academics and friends and loves school.

Ada’s still in gymnastics and this year we also signed her up for a choir that meets once a week. Being a mom of a school-aged kid is certainly different. It can be overwhelming at times and there are always new issues we confront or curiosities Ada has. It’s hard to get into in brief. But I think we’re doing a great job so far.

We’re having a birthday party for Ada this coming weekend. It’s cat-themed, much like her first birthday. She has so many friends and always wants to be hanging out. Completely different from my personality! I love seeing the person she’s turning into outside of me and our home. It’s a special time, that’s for sure. Ada’s also an amazing big sister and really watches out for Eloise. I’ve enjoyed watching their relationship develop as Eloise has transformed from motionless blob to active toddler.

// TTC


I mentioned on Instagram that we tried for number three last month. It didn’t work out, and we’re not sure when we’ll try again or if we will. Basically, last month would have been good timing, so we went for it. But then due dates get into XC season for several months, which is something I’d like to avoid (but I don’t take fertility for granted, so who knows). Trying brought back a lot of emotions and thoughts that I hadn’t expected. While this was just the first month (and -- please don’t think I’m freaking out about not getting pregnant right away. I TOTALLY didn’t expect to!), I felt the weight of our previous infertility issues and multiple losses.

I don’t know how much more I’ll share about this journey, but I just wanted to put it out there. I wish TTC wasn’t this huge thing. That I could approach it without such thought or simply not think about it. I was at a children’s museum this morning and a group of friends all seemed to be pregnant with their third child and each had two kids that were very close in age as well. I heard them all talking about having their kids a year apart, 15 months apart, two years apart. It wasn’t their fault at all, but I felt isolated hearing them all chat about the relative ease of having kids back-to-back.

It also made me feel like maybe we aren’t ready to take the plunge. Their kids were running all over the place in different directions . . . and it looked e.x.h.a.u.s.t.i.n.g -- LOL. I mean, there’s a reason we waited until Ada was 2.5 to start trying for a second. There are definite advantages of Ada being in school and being home with Eloise alone most of the time. Interestingly enough, I get mistaken for a first-time mom a lot of the time.

// Life


Anyway, life is good. There’s probably a ton I’ve left out. I am trying to take more photos with my DSLR lately. I used to do photography for friends and friends of friends, but I doubt I’d do it again. Still, my skills have atrophied quite a bit, so I’d love to be a good self-taught family photo-taker.

On that note:


Thanks for reading!

I am hoping to get two more posts up this week. One is our winter bucket list and the other is my holiday gift ideas for kids. I have some creative ideas for small budgets this year. Our furnace repairs really dug into any money we had for gifts. Ah, life just costs money at every turn. We are still blessed with so many other things, though. Perspective is key.

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